Are you a working parent who struggles to make time for their children? Do you seek solace in the idea of working to provide your children with better lifestyles than you had? Does the thought of not being there for your kids when they need to haunt you?
If your answer to any of the above questions was yes, then you no longer need to keep searching for better parenting strategies. If you’ve been wondering whether your absence affects your newborn on the infant in a negative way, we have answers. Yes, it does, but not to worry.
Thanks to the rapid technological advancements in contemporary times, you can now stay connected to your children through cell phones and electronic devices with the help of a parental control app. All you need to do is download the app on both devices and set up activity alerts for whenever you want to be notified vis-à-vis your children.
When parents indulge in neglectful or uninvolved parenting behaviors, children cannot help but act in ways bound to get their parents’ attention. They do not even have to be aware of it. These responses are more psychophysiological in nature rather than conscious responses.
Children innately crave their parents’ attention and when it is not given to them they subconsciously act in ways that are most likely to earn it. Since they now feel they have to work for the love they so patently have always been worthy of.
The manifestation of this subconscious feeling of having to work for love and affection may be subtle in ways but always yields negative aftereffects in the long run.
A child may either become an overachiever all of a sudden or their academic performance may decline by a certain degree. Both, in the long term, are going to leave detrimental effects on the mental and psychological well-being of the child.
If we know anything about attachment styles, we know that parental negligence, however indispensable it may be, does have adverse and lasting effects on adult attachment psyches, resulting in the traumatization of the following generation in an ongoing behavioral cycle.
How to Avoid Furthering the Generational Trauma
Treat your children with love and care. Make it known that they do not have to work for your affection.
Be strict wherever necessary. Make rules and make sure they are followed without being too harsh about them.
If for example, they break or spill something, instead of yelling at them at the first sight of it, try being polite. Even if you have to let them know they did something wrong because let’s face it, anyone could spill a glass of milk accidentally. You could’ve accidentally knocked it over had you been in a hurry to do something else.
Help them with their homework. If they already have tutors, check their homework, supervise. Give them an excuse to spend time with you. Let them know they did a good job when you see some good test scores.
Play games with your children, be those virtual reality simulations or board games. Well, child psychologists and educationists would recommend board games like scrabble and monopoly and other games that involve more physical activities and activate neural pathways such as Jenga, Lego, and Twister.
These games are awesome in the sense that they not only allow parents and children to spend time together but also make allowances for neural pathways to open up. Put simply, they make your children smarter and more capable of critical thinking which is bombastic academic as well as practical life skills.
Here’s a small parenting hack for a win-win situation: give your child a choice between two foods you want them to eat. For example, ask: ‘Honey, would you like broccoli or scrambled eggs for breakfast?’ Now the trick here is that they would think they are in charge since they would be deciding between broccoli and scrambled eggs, but you would be happy either way since a) they ate something healthy and b) you were going to give them one of those anyway.
Try a Parental Control App
For tweens and teenagers, it is more important to stay connected to them since they think and feel, and act out often. These are the ages where children go through a lot of changes and require specific kinds of conversations, interactions, modified yet flexible rules, and support.
It is important for parents to befriend their children all over again during this transitional phase since teen years are nothing but preparation for the soon-to-follow early adult life.
As for the part where working parents struggle to make time for their children, say hello to the FamilyTime parental control app that offers solutions to all your problems at a single tap.
Fun for All Ages
Parents can access location and geofence areas, not only this but set ‘pick me up alerts’ for infants and tweens where children can remind parents that it is time to pick them up from school, as well as a panic button that sends instant alerts to parents and lets them know their child is in danger or in a state of an emergency where they need them. The panic button would make sure you are always there when your children need you.
For Teenagers, FamilyTime allows parents to set safe drive limits and sends alerts when the limit is compromised to let the child know their parent wants them safe and also to let the parent know there has been a breach of the driving speed limit so they can make sure everything is alright and well with the world.